By Billy Sadia
Posted in Africa Yoga Project Blog, on October 01, 2013
There is nobility in silence. We feel bad and confused when we talk to someone and they don’t respond back to us. Silence is sometimes also commonly regarded as either utter rudeness or consent. It could also mean lack of a better answer or not knowing what to say, which you will agree with me we hardly take as an answer in good faith. The exchange of both verbal and visual signs is the communication that we are used to. …..but have you taken time to explore the nobility in silent communication? I have, in noble silence.
There is communication in silence, not the sign language and can hardly be termed as visual because I believe even the blind would share the same experience as everyone else. It is strong in every dimension; it just depends on your personal interpretation. This is the very basic and root essence of connection. Technology, talk of social media, life patterns, sheer self centeredness and other factors in this current generation have driven us apart and we are slowly but surely losing grounds of essential communication therefore affecting the deep connection, borne of understanding, based on feeling, on appreciation and acknowledgment, generous listening, patience and tolerance between ourselves and our loved ones. You feel this reality of the drift and distance in our life during noble silence. It certainly brings me back to my core. Can you be rude to yourself, can you ignore you, and can you be snobbish to yourself? I don’t think I can, but maybe you do huh! Practically as my partner in this exercise, you are only filling in my part/position or space so I can better look at myself, so that I can use you as a mirror if you allow me, because it’s me that I am looking at and not you, my partner across. In this silence I look at you deep enough till I realize I have come face to face with the horror of my life, my inner fears, insecurities, self doubt, and all other masks the list is endless but none of them is about you but about me.
Such are the lessons that I have learnt through my experience in yoga. The true me yearns for connection, a connection which starts from deep inside me and extends out. I have realized that I have for so long kept myself in a cocoon from which I needed release; freedom from bondage of my own masks and secrets. The kind that lets me and everyone else breathe fresh and unaccustomed air of choice and liberation. I have also come to realize that apart from the public jails/prisons, there are personal prisons from which I have craved to crawl out of in one way or another….and that over time I have developed ways and means (masks) to escape reality at the slightest chance I get and to wonder off to a secluded world of fantasy, a world that tells a different definition of courage, authenticity, honesty and truth. In most cases this chances only result in short term releases from the self imprisonment and has absolutely no guarantee of success whatsoever.
Just like the way yoga teaches me to align my body to its true north during practice, is the same way I need to align my thoughts and actions to my true self, before I am capable of extending a hand out if I am to be of service to anyone else let alone myself. This only comes through confrontation of my emotions, deal with my issues and all other challenges as they present themselves in my life.